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How to Galvanize Your Mind at Jury Duty

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On Friday, I blogged about my experience at jury duty and how I was able to transform it from dreadful to adventurous with the help of an iPod, a book, a paper, a pen and the willingness to open my mind. I was reading my book, Cash in a Flash and decided to do one of the exercises from the book right there in the jury duty waiting room. Part of what that entailed was to open my mind to my surroundings rather than continue listening to the stories my mind likes to repeat. I did it and amazingly, on the spot, my experience of jury duty shifted and I felt like I was in an airport terminal or bus station. I listed all the things I knew I had in common with at least one person in the room. I decided to use jury duty as a way to wake up and get connected to a bigger picture. Here's my list: 1. I am an author. 2. I've been a squatter. 3. I am a daughter. 4. I am a woman. 5. I am part of the gene pool. 6. I am a niece. 7. I have a story. 8. I am a step-daughter. 9. I am an aunt. 10. I am a teacher. 11. I am a member of the human race. 12. I am serving jury duty. 13. I don't get to do what I usually do. 14. I usually work, stay home, listen to music, work on the computer, drive, eat, sleep, etc. 15. I am a college instructor. 16. I read A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle. 17. I have a cell phone. 18. I read books and magazines and newspapers. 19. I have a mobile device. 20. I surf the web. 21. I listen to music. 22. I hang out with musicians. 23. I like the DIY (Do It Yourself) movement. 24. I talk to punkers. 25. I fidget. 26. I get bored. 27. I doze in and out of consciousness. 28. Sometimes I don't get a lot of sleep. 29. I have a lot on my mind. 30. I like to write. 31. I like to read. 32. I am a resident of Los Angeles County. 33. I like to talk to other people. 34. I like to stay to myself. 35. I am an artist. 36. I've been to a Tuesday night 12-step group. 37. I'm not comfortable with the sun in my eyes. 38. I'm sensitive to temperature. 39. I am a sports fan. 40. I've had people judge me based on how I look. 41. I've smoked cigarettes. 42. I've quit smoking cigarettes. 43. I like reggae. 44. I'd like to see things change in this world but I don't think violence is the answer. There are 44 items on this list. How many of the items on this list apply to you? Leave a comment below and let me know you're there. By the way, if you want a REAL mind shift, check out the free CD with the Holosych method. You'll see the world in a whole new, peaceful way.

Rave Reviews of The Ray – Part III

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This is part three of my review of The Ray and I'm only up to page 16. Only 16 pages of reading and I've already written two blogs about it. I can't help it. When I find something this good, I gotta share about it. The article "Falling in Love With You" by Dr. Meg Haworth was a real eye-opener. Here are some of the quotes: "Paying attention to the regular flow of the self-deprecating voices in your head is one way to begin your commitment to loving you....If you put yourself down throughout the day, others will reflect back to you exactly what you are telling yourself. What you think and feel about you is what gets produced in the world around you." (Side note: I call my self-depricating voice "Jeb." Jeb is an overweight, mysogynist, conservative republican with a Southern accent. He has a beer belly and he wears blue jeans, a white T-shirt, suspenders and a John Deere baseball cap. I might unfurl Jeb to the public on the Get Gal VanIZed blog sometime in the near future). Dr. Meg Haworth admits to denying and degrading her own talents and accomplishments in life. Even though she is highly educated and creative, (after all, she draws, sings, dances, writes poetry, songs, books, and regular articles and teaches at the Doctoral level...(phew, that's a lot to do). Nonetheless she admits, "My commitment to hiding those talents had become a way of fufilling my beliefs around being small. I did not feel I had anything of value to offer the world." Boy, can I relate to that one. It seems like every client I see shares a similar sentiment. I have been around some amazing men and women in my life and I have seen a very strong tendency for people to downplay their successes, talents and accomplishments as "not good enough." I think this is partially a side effect of a perfectionistic mindset. We are bombarded with images of perfection at every turn. Your mind believes that perfect is "normal." Of course perfection is entirely abnormal. There literally is No Such Thing. From Sabotage to SuccessDr. Meg Haworth had a worksheet titled The Path to Self-Love. She poses 6 questions for readers to reflect on. Rather than copy them from the magazine and risk copyright violation, I will share questions from worksheets in my book, From Saboatage to Success that can also help you create self-love.
  1. Write your current concept of success. Where did you learn it from? Is there anything you'd like to change about it?
  2. Write about the heroes or heroines you admired as a child look for clues as to what you value and admire.
  3. Consider your favorite hobbies or books you read as a child. Do you find any common themes?
  4. What brings you joy?
  5. Through the years, what has been a consistent quality or attirbute that other people have appreciated in you?
  6. Think of three people who know you well. What would each of them say is unique or special about you?
I have one more post about The Ray in a future blog.