Posts Tagged ‘feminism’

Marianne Willamson on Rousing the Sleeping Giant of American Womanhood

Wednesday, January 20th, 2010

I just finished listening to a live teleseminar featuring Marianne Williamson. It was so filled with bits of wisdom to galvanize women that I found myself Tweeting quotes throughout the show. This call was part of the Women on the Edge of Evolution teleseries.

Her topic was Sister Giant: Rousing the Sleeping Giant of American Womanhood. You can listen to it on-line here.

She’s going to do a Sister Giant: Rousing the Sleeping Giant of American Womanhood event in Los Angeles on February 26, 27 and 28. Sign up here. Scholarships are available for those who can’t come due to lack of funds.

Gal-Vanize Your Wardrobe on a Budget

Friday, October 23rd, 2009

frontofflowerTo be Gal-Vanized means to be strong and beautiful, soft and powerful. One of the most natural and feminine ways to express power is with a flower. You can Gal-Vanize your wardrobe for just a few bucks and have fun doing it.

A simple silk flower with a hair clip or steel pin back glued to it will immediately add a sense of vibrancy to your look. Wearing vibrant colors and flowers will make you feel brighter. You will also notice that it makes a great conversation starter.

backofclipI simply gathered a few different types of silk flowers then got out my glue gun and added pin backs and hair clips. I can instantly add any of these flowers to my lapel or my hair and immediately transform my look.

Books for Knitting and Crochet

Customer Reviews and Ratings on Full Bust and Full Figure Bras and Swimsuits at Big Girls Bras

Ellen Page on Women, Roller Derby and “Whip It”

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

Ellen Page and Alia Shawkat take time for a behind the scenes interview about Drew Barrymore’s “Whip It” at the Toronto International Film Festival. This interview captures the spirit of roller derby which includes team spirit, feminism, fun, diversity and a DIY culture.

Page talks about how much she loved the “Whip It” script and working with director, Drew Barrymore. She especially likes how the movie sends a positive message for young women to accept themselves as they are.

“We have a constant saturation in the media, especially with stories about women that involve a lot of judgment and a lot of nastiness” Page said.

“Here’s an atmosphere where women…can be really aggressive and that’s okay…but also have this sense of camaraderie, you know; beat the crap out of each other and then go have beers afterwards, and laugh about it and to really be there for each other and to have a world that’s just judgementless. And that’s pretty nice.”

I agree, that is pretty nice. That’s why it’s worth it to go see this movie and take a young woman that you care about.

Opens in theaters on October 2. For more information about Whip It, click here.

Stan Goff on Racism, Sexism and Economics

Wednesday, January 21st, 2009

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The other day, I had my iPod on shuffle. I was listening to music mostly but all of the sudden, my shuffle landed on a piece of audio by Stan Goff. It was a lecture or discussion of racism, sexism and the economy. I found it fascinating and wanted to share it with you. It’s about 6 minutes long.

In Style Wants Me Back – They Can’t Have Me

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009

instyleenvelopeIt’s been almost two years since I held a subscription to In Style magazine. Ever since then, they’ve been sending me letters like this, letting me know that they want me back.

As much as it feels good to be wanted, it feels better to deny In Style.

My decision to cancel my subscription was not without hesitation. I do love pretty pictures, clothing and accessories. But one day, as I sat at my table with the 500 page magazine before me, I had an epiphany.

As I turned page after page of advertisements and eyeballed one unattainable image after another it struck me: I was paying money to be advertised to.

Not only that, I was paying money to feel rotten about myself. That’s not a wise move.

instyle I wrote an article about this back in 2007. I concluded that since the magazine often led me to desire things I could not afford, I was paying to be dissatisfied and in debt. Again, not a smart way to spend my time or my money.

Today, I choose my media input wisely. I spend within my means and do my best to concentrate my mental energy on things that are uplifting and empowering. Every small step I take towards honoring myself makes me just a little bit stronger and if you ask me, it’s worth the effort.

If you need help learning how to love yourself as you are, consider the Love Your Body, Love Yourself hypnosis and affirmation CD or the Donate Your Weight program.

Women and Public Speaking – On Helen Blanchard as Toastmasters’ First Female President

Monday, December 29th, 2008

Agape Toastmasters, Culver City, CAI’ve attended Toastmasters and entertained the idea of a public speaking as a career off and on for close to 18 years. Right now I’m a member of Agape Toastmasters, a diverse club with male and female members from various parts of the world and different ages and ethnicities. Our club’s mission is to “foster an unconditionally loving, mutually supportive and highly inspirational environment”. I think we do a pretty good job of it.

After reading an article in the November 2008 Toastmaster magazine written by Julie Bawden Davis, I realize that the concept of unconditional love is something our world at large is still in the infancy stages of fostering.

The article was about a woman named Helen Blanchard, Toastmasters’ First Female President in 1985-1986. It was an engaging article and I was following along without incident until I read these words: “By 1973, women were allowed to join Toastmasters clubs and she was able to use her real name.”

Wait, hold up. Women were “allowed” to join Toastmasters in 1973? I’m not prepared to process the fact that 35 years ago, in my lifetime, women were not “allowed” to speak in public. At least not in Toastmasters. The thing is, Helen Blanchard joined Toastmasters before 1973, she just had to pretend she was “Homer” until she was “allowed” to be Helen.

I shall purposely avoid the desire to break into a rant now. Instead, I will share a quote from the article with you that I think is important for all women to really bask in: “Everyone used to call Helen a women’s libber, but the truth is, she’s a ‘people libber,’” says Chuck Borough, a member of Downtown Escondido Toastmasters who has known her for over 40 years. “Helen has chartered more than 40 clubs,” he says. “Toastmasters is twice as big as it would have been without Helen.”

Turn down the heat and simmer in those words for a while. Let it sink in. Then, do something about it. If you live in the Greater L.A. area, consider being my guest at Agape Toastmasters one Saturday morning. I would love to meet you there so I can hear what you have to say.

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Roller Derby: ‘Hot chicks kicking ass on wheels’

Monday, June 30th, 2008

I spent the weekend at a Roller Derby tournament in Los Angeles. I was surrounded by hot chicks who kick ass. How can that NOT have a positive influence on you?

I didn’t come up with the phrase ‘It’s hot chicks kicking ass on wheels’. That’s the title of an article that appeared on L.A. Com earlier this week. But it’s a great title and it pretty much describes how I feel about Rinkrat’s LAist.com photo gallery from this weekend’s roller derby tournament.

I’m gonna post a few teasers here, but if you love derby like I love derby, you’ll probably go to the gallery and look at each photo about 27 times each. (Click on photos to see a larger version).

Kung Pow, LA Derby Doll is practically airborne

Kung Pow Tina finally squeezes her way through the powerful blocking force of Team Awesome. The question is, will she fall or will she recover?

Tara. Tough and nails, smooth as silk.

Tara Armov of the L.A. Riettes

Ellen Page cheers for Axles of Evil from the LA Derby Dolls

I’m not a very observant star gazer but I can appreciate the publicity power of a well-known name, so I will go out of my way to blatantly use the name Ellen Page of Juno in my blog post and keywords. And it IS a pretty sweet picture of Ellen Page cheering for Axles of Evil don’tcha think?

Why is she there you ask? Because if you haven’t heard yet, she’s starring in Drew Barrymore’s directorial debut, Whip It along with Juliette Lewis (see below), Marcia Gay Harden, Kristen Wiig and Zoe Bell. This movie takes an up-close and personal look into the life of a derby girl and roller derby culture.

When the Derby Dolls door staff saw Stephanie walk towards us in her Hot Dog on a Stick uniform, we burst into spontaneous applause. There really is nothing like a Hot Dog on a Stick at the Roller Derby Tournament. Don’t forget the fresh squeezed lemonade.

Juliette Lewis celebrates with Derby Dolls at the Doll Factory in Los Angeles, CA

Hey look, it’s Juliette Lewis (Natural Born Killers, Strange Days, Cape Fear) gettin’ cozy with Derby Doll’s: Suzy Snakeyes, V. Lee and Trixie Biscuit.

Pretty in Stereo was a half-time band during the 2008 Battle on the Bank roller derby tournament. These were some rockin’ young women AND for the first time ever at a live music event, the band members threw panties at the audience, not the other way around. So, I am literally wearing a pair of hot pink panties with a Pretty in Stereo logo on them as I blog. My hubby caught them for me :)

Hey, wait a second I almost forgot, Burt Burcharah was there too! My hubby shot a photo of him with Derby Dolls co-founder, Demolicious (aka Rebecca Nimby).

I Had NO Idea I Was Swimming in a Sea of Self-Criticism

Sunday, June 15th, 2008

The fish doesn’t know it’s swimming in water. We don’t realize we swim in energy. I was swimming in the energy of “I suck” most of my life and I had no idea. I needed hundreds of people to reflect something different back to me before I “got” who I actually am. I spent my entire life downgrading every aspect of my being. I hated my body, I criticized my creativity, I missed the joy of being surrounded by some very cool people and events most of my life. I was present in body but not in mind or spirit.

I was so busy replaying the stories and self-criticism that I picked up along the journey of my life that I could not be present. I could not hear your words of praise and I could not feel your love. I thought you were lying. I thought you were just trying to be nice. I had no idea you actually meant it and it could actually be true.

Sheri as a babySelf-criticism was my life. My mom has pumping self-hate through her bloodstream while I was in her womb. She was drinking Diet Coke and smoking cigarettes, trying not to gain weight. After I was born, she was starving herself to try and attain a weight of 105. One time the Department of Social Services came out to our apartment because the neighbors were concerned that I had been left alone. What happened is that my mom passed out due to starvation and I was left to fend for myself. How can a teen mom with this much self-hate possibly teach a child about self-love?

I think many women have become accustomed to self-criticism and it is a learned comfort zone. Self-hatred is a norm. Women who seem too confident or successful are subject to criticism, women who are “too thin” or “too curvy” are subject to body stereotypes. When a young, beautiful or successful woman threatens our security, we rip her to shreds, finding everything that’s “wrong” with her and pointing it out to whoever will listen. Let’s face it, many of us are not respecting ourselves or each other and it’s not helping a soul.

My life experiences range from working with at-risk youth, recovering addicts, battered women, ex-cons and foster youth to wealthy hypnosis clients. I was one of 5 White kids living on the Hupa Indian Reservation in California in 1976. I’ve attended and lead thousands of groups, meetings, classes and workshops and worked as a therapist with hundreds of clients.

I attended more than 20 schools and lived in even more neighborhoods. I wrote for the school newspaper and interviewed a variety of interesting people for articles. I’m one of those people who naturally evokes trust and as a result, strangers, friends, aquaintances, family members and clients have sat with me since I was a child and told me intimate details of their “story.”

Here’s what I know: we all want the same things and we all have the same feelings. We all want love. We all want to feel important. We all want to make a difference and live a life of purpose. We all have moments where we feel powerless, afraid and alone. The majority of us have regrets about the past that we rehearse consistently. The reason we don’t follow our dreams is that we don’t believe in ourselves. We have excuses and rationalizations and delay tactics and drama but none of them are real. It’s all a facade.

People have talked about the importance of love for decades yet the concept of self-love is practically shunned. As long as we hate ourselves, it will be difficult to make positive changes in our own lives or the lives of others. I created a CD that’s all about loving yourself as you are, it’s called Love Your Body, Love Yourself. I know it is powerful because I listened to a CD like this when I was in my 20’s and it made a huge difference. The repetition of all those positive thoughts helped me to do things I dreamt of doing such as writing a book, getting it published, going to college and becoming a college instructor. Because of my own personal experience, I am becoming more and more diligent about choosing my thoughts and energy than ever before.

From Sabotage to Success by Sheri ZampelliTake a moment to pause. Notice what your automatic thoughts are. Are they leading you in the direction in which you wish to go? If not, it is up to you to change it and it’s quite easy and possible to do if you want to. You simply create new habits by thinking new thoughts. My book, From Sabotage to Success can be a useful tool in helping you find thoughts that aren’t working for you and replacing them with thoughts that do. Another tool that’s been useful to me lately is watching You Can Heal Your Life on DVD. This movie really opened my eyes to a different perception of myself and how I interact in the world. Check it out if you believe in things like The Secret or Law of Attraction.

Roller Derby – Now THAT’s an Attitude

Tuesday, June 10th, 2008

Sheri Zampelli Punk Rock GirlI grew up on punk rock and as such, I’m simply not the type of person who can sit still quietly for any length of time. When the “punk movement” was surging through Southern California in the 80’s and 90’s I attended many shows and engaged in many conversations about “what punk REALLY is.” A good number of people had the “punk is an attitude” philosophy but somehow I sensed this was mostly rhetoric and pontification versus the way people acted in real life.

Punk Rock BoyThe truth is, there were unwritten rules about what was “punk” and what was not “punk” and though they may have changed from person to person, they were there nonetheless. There was a dress code and a set of acceptable behaviors. Never once did I see a man in a three-piece suit at a gig, long hair and tans were definitely not “cool” and black was the color of conformity. Oh, and by the way, in many circles if you did anything that might make you money or cause you to be successful (even if it was having a punk band) you were a “sellout.” UGH.

It seems that most groups of people eventually fall into these traps with rigid roles, rules and restrictions, even when their starting premise is freedom of expression. I got disenchanted by the whole punk thing over time, it just didn’t seem vital anymore and I missed the “good old days” where it seemed fun and raw and fresh and creative.
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(Open The Wreck’s MySpace page in a new window and listen to Punk is an Attitude off of Not So Quiet on the Western Front while you read the rest of this blog. If you listen while you read it will really enhance the experience. If you like it, buy the single on iTunes.)
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Well, all my good feelings about punk and DIY culture and self-expression and hell, even the women’s movement and the civil rights movement, came back when I stepped foot into my first Derby Doll bout at Little Tokyo in April ‘07. I fell in love instantly and began skating with Fresh Meat and doing volunteer work almost immediately.

There is so much I could tell you about this DIY operation. SOOO many behind-the-scenes stories just begging to be told but I think I’ll start it all off with a pictorial that captures a tiny bit of the Roller Derby Attitude.

It seems to me that the only people who are not welcome at a Derby Doll bout are those who are under the age of 21 (and I’m sure many of them WISH they could come). Other than that, this is truly an ecclectic, diverse, creative, energetic group of amazing people with almost unanimously great attitudes. I’ll let the pictures tell the story. And when you finish looking at the pictures and start reaching for your wallet to buy tickets for the next bout, go to this link and do it now. It is a life-changing event, trust me. (By the way, you can click on any of the photos below and see a larger version).

Crowd shot at the LA Derby Doll Bout, 5-31-08

Mila Minute fan displays support as crowd looks on. Man with camera documenting roller derby history. It’ll only go up from here.

Drew Barrymore, Ellen Page and the Cookie Monster at LA Derby Dolls 5-31-08

Part of the reason it will grow is because of Drew Barrymore’s directorial debut of the movie Whip It! starring Ellen Page. The publicity machine is already on the scene and pictures of Drew at the Doll Factory have popped up in People Magazine and on People.com at least twice.

The cookie monster served as the Tough Cookie mascot for the evening. Look closely and you’ll see Drew Barrymore on the right, she is taking research photos and appears to be talking to Ellen Page. Whip it! is a movie about a young girl coming of age in roller derby world.

Los Angeles City Council Member Eric Garcetti sings the national anthem at the LA Derby Dolls 5-31-08

13th District Los Angeles City Councilmember, Eric Garcetti gets the party started by singing the national anthem to a sold out crowd at the Doll Factory.

Krissy Krash and family.  LA Derby Dolls.

Tough Cookie, Krissy Krash poses for a photo with Daddy and Gramma Krash. They come to every game and sit in the VIP section cheering Krissy on.

Girls get out for some LA Derby Doll action

And these women? They’re cheering everyone on. It’s girls night out and time for some roller derby fun.

Haute Wheels is heated

Here’s the type of energy and dedication the skaters have. Everyone in the building is pumped up.

Automatic Music Explosion singer, Jodie makes a sign at LA Derby Dolls

This beautiful young lady is Jodie. She’s the lead singer for the automatic music explosion. Even though she’s getting ready to play a gig, she still finds time to make a sign for her Derby Doll friend, Laura Palm-Her. If you listen to some of the songs on their MySpace page, you’ll get a feel for what it’s like the entire night at a derby bout. They even have a song titled Roller Derby.

Racy DC and Krissy Krash of the Los Angeles Derby Dolls

There is no size, weight or height requirement in roller derby. If you wanna kick ass on wheels and you’re over 21, come on down. You literally don’t even have to know how to skate to get started.

Varsity Brawlers of the LA Derby Dolls

Here’s a glimpse of the newest Derby Doll team, the Varsity Brawlers. They’ll compete in their first bout in October, 2008. If you’re smart, you’ll get tickets now, before it’s impossible to do so. Heck, the place only holds 1,700 spectators and it sells out quicker and quicker everytime.