Get Motivated, Get Creative…You’re Not Weird Afterall

Photo by alexconst http://flickr.com/photos/alexconst/2125940685/Once again my seemingly "random" steps off the beaten path lead me to another Internet gem. I was searching Google, trying to find the technical literary term for when a writer lists three items in a row. I only took a semester of creative writing so I was really racking my brain. "I know there's a name for it: "iameter" "pentameter" "diameter"...something like that." I still haven't figured it out. However, a few clicks into my search I did stumble upon Mark McGuinness' free eBook "How to Motivate Creative People (including yourself) - An eBook for leaders, managers, directors and other creative people." "I don't really NEEEED to read this book", I thought to myself. I'm not a manager and I'm not always sure if I'm creative, but it had a picture of Iggy Pop on the cover so I couldn't resist. I was surprised at how I was instantly immersed in this eBook. With each page I read I became more entranced and excited. If I had to put it into words, it would go something like this: "Dear God, somebody actually does understand ME! Maybe I'm not so weird afterall...I've just been around the wrong people." And that sort of is the truth. I can tell you a gazillion stories about why I say that but here's the bullet-point version: ........................................................................................ * I lived in a home where getting beat up and criticized was normal * I lived on the Hupa (Hoopa) Indian Reservation * I was a punker * I did not understand how oppression and freedom could co-exist * I wasn't strong enough to do anything about it * I numbed out Fast forward Happy woman roams the fields without a care in the world* I got off heroin, I got a little self-esteem * I was around a lot of creative people, especially musicians * I was excited about a new life * I want to share with people how I did what I did * I knew if I could do it, they could do it too Fast forward * Move into the black hole of the educational system and the "system" in general * Feel the life being sucked out day by day * Lose all hope, don't even try to speak up * "Remember, Last time you did that, you got fired" * Forget completely why you ever decided to do this in the first place * Begin doing your job on auto-pilot * Become more concerned about doing it "right", pleasing your supervisor, putting your name on the form correctly, etc. than serving the client * Don't talk about yourself * Don't share just any old information, only the approved information in the approved way at the approved time. Afterall, you wouldn't want to get sued ........................................................................................ If any of this sounds familiar to you, read on because this eBook about motivating "creative people" could be great for groups of therapists and teachers to help them avoid burnout. It can help that person who got into the field to "change the world" but ended up feeling bleak and miserable, peering out from behind a mountain of papers. A woman loves her familyIf you're a therapist or intern, give this to your supervisor and see if he or she will actually implement some of it. Use this to validate the fact that you're not weird or wrong, you're just creative. You can make a difference. I teach at a community college and I have seen these motivational techniques work in the classroom. Many of my students are self-described "hoodlums." They admit to being in gangs, using hard drugs, being homeless, not liking white people and any other number of "tough" things. Some of them are back in school for the first time after spending decades behind bars. At the heart of it, they show up because they want to change the world. When they talk about their plans to open a homeless shelter or help juvenile delinquents, I see a sparkle in their eyes and I want to keep that fire alive. If you are a helper, healer or teacher, you do too. I know you do. I've talked to you on the phone. I've read your e-mails. I've met with you face to face. Now I'm telling you, read this eBook and see if you can get "re-lit" and go on to help others "get lit" too. From Sabotage to Success by Sheri ZampelliIf you like McGuinness' free eBook, you might also like my book, From Sabotage to Success. It's filled with creative and empowering projects and worksheets like how to create your own visual or audio advertisements and how to write power-packed affirmations. There are easy-to-use tools like the Create The Life You Want handout and a diagram on how to make a creative goal chart that will break down your big dreams into manageable steps. For those of you who love labels, tradition and recognized psychological jargon, you'll be happy to know that everything in the book is an interpretation of cognitive-behavioral, psychoanalytic and narrative theories. I just simplified the concepts and made them creative to reach a wider audience and add some fun to the process of change. Get your own copy of From Sabotage to Success today on Amazon or ask your local book dealer to get you a copy. P.S. One of Iggy Pop's songs is titled Lust for Life, you can get it on iTunes.

Object Relations, A Course in Miracles and Creating Illusions

I'm helping my friend with her doctoral dissertation. The important thing I want to say about it right now is that its on the topic of how Object Relations relates to eating disorders. I also need to say I read A Course in Miracles everyday. The reason for the above two sentences will make sense in a moment. Especially if you know that both of these schools of thought believe that we create our reality based on our pain and fear. I'm going to keep it brief because the truth is, I've got enough to say about this that I can post one blog a day for at least a year and not run out of topics. In short, I've been a walking victim for 42 or more years and I made it all up. Here's how: My mom and dad split up when I was 9 months old. He never wrote, called or sent child support. I made up a story about it. Here are the highlights: *My dad doesn't love me *If my own dad doesn't love me, I must be awful *Nobody loves me The rest of the story highlights are simply a reinforcement of above. A Course in MiraclesWell, according to the Object Relations theory, an off-shoot of Freudian psychotherapy, I created my dad as a "bad object". He hurt me, he abandonded me so I made up a story that basically "men cannot be trusted". I stuck to the story whether it was true or not. If I had a bad guy in my life, I used it as evidence. If I had a good guy, I made a point of turning him into a bad guy, even if I had to make it up. According to A Course in Miracles, we can't see reality because all we're seeing is a replay of our fears. The Course says we can surrender the illusion of fear to the Holy Spirit and have our sight restored. So, that might have been what happened tonight. Long story short, I have seen my dad in person 3 times. The last time was over a year ago when we decided to forgive each other and try to have a relationship. From that moment, the illusion began to crumble. Tonight it came tumbling down. After working on Sharareh's dissertation for 7 hours I came home and saw a book on my table. A book titled "Victory Over the Darkness." A book my dad bought for me on Amazon.com and had shipped to my house. It hit me. My dad is in my life now. He loves me. He wants me to forgive him. He drove across country to see me. But still, the remanents of the old story linger in the recesses of my mind. Tonight, I thought: "What if I just let the story go right now?" "What if I had a new story about a miraculous reunification?" "What if this story could help me AND other people?" That seemed logical. So I dropped the story and it felt pretty good. P.S. If this story did help you, I would recommend that you subscribe to this blog because I haven't even begun to tell it. Stay tuned. P.P.S. Above is a picture of me and my dad at Denny's last year when we met for the 3rd time ever and decided to forgive and let go.