Some of us use food to stuff down our feelings. Therefore, a weight loss strategy is to say what you mean and mean what you say. You will save so much time and energy and you'll be happier and less anxious (thereby alleviating the need to "stress eat") if you just say what's on your mind and get it over with. Some of us are afraid to speak up or to express our feelings, especially if the feelings are anger or resentment. The truth is, the longer you stuff your feelings down, the more likely you are to have an angry outburst. So, if you're hesitant to speak your anger out loud to another person, begin by writing your feelings out on paper. Before you make a request or ultimatum, get clear on EXACTLY what YOU want and be prepared to deal with the consequences that will result from the outcome. Be willing to back up your words with action. Don't waste your mental energy saying something you don't really mean. You'll just be frustrated and upset with yourself and the other people in your life will just lose respect for you. Remember, you cannot be upset with someone for crossing your boundaries when you didn't even clearly state what they were. You can't be upset with someone for not respecting your wishes if you didn't say what your wishes were or if you don't even respect your own wishes. So don't get mad, get focused and get more of what you want. If you need a place to help you find your voice, I'd recommend one of the following: Toastmasters International - (Especially Agape Toastmasters) Held 2gether Improv Classes in Long Beach, CA

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